From Kindergarten to College

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Your Guide to Navigating School Transitions

Transitions are tough on kids and parents. Here’s what you need to know to help your child successfully navigate school milestones–and what to watch for each step of the way.
Welcome to kindergarten. This year, your child will begin to develop a sense of independence and self-confidence. To ensure long-term academic success, foster resilience and a growth mindset.
“Allow them to make make mistakes, to keep trying and reward the effort not the action,” says Tara Walrod, a school counselor.
For example, instead of telling your child how smart they are, you might say: “You worked so hard and did it by yourself!”

Tips for success:

  • Practice buckling and unbuckling their seatbelt
  • Learn to independently take jacket on and off
  • Ability to get their backpack on/off and zip/unzip it
  • Help them recognize their name in writing
  • Continue reading daily with your child
  • Attend school orientation events like kindergarten round-up and sneak-a-peeks
  • Foster fair play, winning and losing gracefully, and flexibility (like using colors that aren’t their first choice)
  • By the second week of school, let your child to walk into the building on their own
  • Encourage eating school lunch the first week to help them learn the ropes

What to watch for: Each evening, ask your youngster questions about their day, like: “What did you talk about during sharing time today?”If your child seems unhappy or lagging behind their peers, check in with the teacher.

Find your middle school mojo.
Middle school can be challenging as kids adjust to multiple teachers and a larger school environment. For the most part, Dr. Jim McMullen, an assistant superintendent and former middle school principal, says kids manage the transition better than their parents might expect, especially when they take advantage of 5th grade school visits and orientations to reduce their apprehension.
“Be there to support them and process with them at night and give advice. Kids pretty quickly become acclimated with the school and do really well,” McMullen says.

Tips for success:

  • Go over a map of the school to figure out class locations
  • Practice unlocking locker combinations prior to school starting
  • Suggest they decorate their locker with fun pictures or magnets
  • If your child will ride the bus, go over the schedule, rules and expectations
  • Encourage involvement in clubs, groups or sports
  • Continue prioritizing reading and academics
  • Check in daily with questions like: “Who is your favorite teacher? Why? Who did you sit with at lunch?
  • What are the top three things you enjoyed at school today? What was one thing you didn’t enjoy?”

What to watch for:
Tune into your child’s social media use. “Parents have to know what their child is looking at and posting–and not gaining self-esteem from ‘likes,’ but instead from making in moments at school,” Walrod says.

Time for the high school hustle.
As your student enters high school, they’ll begin to face more pressures related to time management, academics, extracurriculars and their social life. An active school life and a healthy support system is critical to your high schooler’s wellbeing.
“Through high school, kids should love going to school, whether their connection is with their friends, teachers, athletic team, band or theater,” McMullen says. “Kids who are engaged do really well academically and socially.”

Tips for success:

  • Attend tours, orientations, and school events
  • Get involved in summer opportunities at the school
  • Check the school’s website for books or other summer assignments due before school begins
  • Continue to prioritize reading and academics
  • Encourage your teen to get involved by following their interests

What to watch for:
“We know that high school is a super stressful time for our kids so make sure they have strategies in place to calm anxieties and stress,” Walrod says.
Continue nurturing your relationship with your teen through conversation. Model and encourage stress management skills like deep breathing exercises, quiet breaks, periodic disengagement from social media, physical exercise, and time with friends and close family.

Moving onto college.
Begin researching higher education options between your child’s sophomore and junior year of high school. Plan visits to colleges or technical schools either the summer before junior year or during the junior year.
“These visits are your first opportunity to get to know the school and see if it might be a good fit, and this will help narrow down the options,” says Alice Arredondo, Ed.D., Director of Admissions, University of Missouri Kansas City.
The transition into college life can take about a year, as your student learns to live independently while managing their time between school work, their social life and other interests.

Tips for success:

  • During their senior year of high school, in exchange for responsible decision-making, remove their curfew
  • Teach them how to do laundry
  • Discuss how to manage money and the pros and cons of credit cards, which is one of the first ways college freshmen get into financial trouble
  • Remind your child their family is available whenever they need support or feel overwhelmed
  • Create expectations about how often you will touch base with each other
  • Foster a sense of openness to all types of conversations, no matter how difficult
  • Check in with your child periodically (preferably not daily)
  • Leave supportive messages on their phone
  • Understand that they may not return your call right away

What to watch for:
“If you notice that your child isn’t responding to any messages, seems depressed or anxious when you call, experiences significant weight changes or seems overly stressed, you should take the time to see them in person and better assess the situation,” Arredondo says. “A small dose of these things may be normal during the college transition but excessive deviations from who you know your child to be should be concerning.”
If your student hasn’t signed a Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA) waiver, you won’t be able to access their grades, finances, personal well-being or any information outside of a public directory. You can ask academic advisors or campus health offices to check on your young adult, but they won’t be able to provide information back without a waiver.
“This is why it’s important to establish an open line of communication with your child before they leave for college,” Arredondo says.

Freelance writer Christa Melnyk Hines is the mom of two adolescent sons, including one who is looking forward to starting high school this fall.

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